One option is to follow the one you love back to Belgium, where you can sit in your corner full of romantic feelings but wondering what on earth to do with yourself. Or you can take a cue from Verónica Demaría by landing a job faster than a work permit, play the piano and learn a sixth language in order to integrate as fast as you can. ‘When I take a decision there is no stopping me.’ Demaria has nonetheless ‘learned how to calm down a bit’ here. She knows she is the one who has to adapt but the peace and quiet of Belgium still makes her strain at the leash. She likes to let her fire burn. Otherwise, she has nothing bad to say about the Belgians. She feels welcomed in the international environment in Tervuren and often goes for walks in the surrounding forest. ‘Then I can imagine I am on holiday.’ (RK, mei 2014)